So you’re ready to try a chastity cage, that sounds exciting! Whether you’re a beginner or exploring this with a partner, follow these steps and tips for a safe, comfortable start.

Clean and groom. Shower thoroughly, especially under the foreskin, and shave or trim pubic hair. This reduces irritation and helps the cage go on smoothly.

Get mentally ready. Chastity isn’t just physical; it’s about commitment. Before locking up, discuss goals and rules (with yourself or your partner/keyholder). Decide on things like duration, allowed breaks, and a safe word. A simple chastity contract or agreement can help you both stay clear and excited about the experience.

Relax. Take a few deep breaths or meditate briefly. Being calm makes the process easier and more confident.

The ring should fit snugly but not tightly. You should be able to slide one finger between your skin and the ring with a little resistance. Most beginners use a ring size between 45mm and 50mm. For more detailed instructions, head to our guide page.

How to measure:
Wrap a string around the base of your penis and testicles, then measure the string length and divide by 3.14 to get the ring diameter.

Scrotal Circumference vs Recommended Ring Diameter
4.7–5.5 inches - 45mm ring size
5.5–6.3 inches - 50mm ring size

• Hold the ring close to your body.
• Gently push each testicle through the ring one at a time. You may need to lift the scrotum with one hand while guiding the ring with the other.
• Then, thread your flaccid penis through the ring. It helps to bend your penis down toward the ring (like threading a needle) so the head slides through easily.
  
• The ring should now sit comfortably behind your penis and testicles, hugging your body’s natural line.

• Lubricate your penis head and cage opening with water-based lube to ease insertion and prevent pinching.
  
• Slide the cage head-first over the penis, aligning its hole with the base ring; use gentle pressure (or a finger behind the ring) if needed.
  
• Align the cage’s locking tabs (or pins) with the ring’s holes, taking care not to pinch your skin.
  
• Adjust the cage so it sits straight and snug, covering the penis without gaps or bulging.
  

Pause, and you should feel snug but not squeezed. If it hurts or you see any color change on your skin, remove the device, adjust, or try a different size. It’s normal to feel a bit of pressure at first, but no numbness or severe pinching.

• Once locked, take out the key. If you have a keyholder, hand it over. If not, store it safely.
• You're now secure. Take a breath, revisit your agreement, and lean into the experience—this is just as much mental as physical.

You did it! Take a moment to appreciate how it feels. It may feel strange at first, but that’s normal. Over the next few minutes, you’ll adjust as blood flow settles and you relax. Always keep in mind the goals you set: whether it’s building self-control, spicing up your relationship, or simply trying something new, stay positive and open to the experience.

Nighttime Erections

• Your body naturally gets erections during sleep, which can make the cage feel tight or uncomfortable. To reduce this:
  Apply a moisturizer with 5% dimethicone behind the ring before bed
• Use an adjustable strap to keep the cage close to your body
• Sleep curled up on your side or in the fetal position

Skin Irritation and Sores

• Clean the area with saline solution
• Apply a thin layer of zinc oxide ointment
• Take a 2-day break from wearing the cage to let your skin heal
• Consider using a soft silicone sleeve over the metal ring for extra comfort

Cleaning and Maintenance

• You don’t need to remove the cage daily.
  Simply wash as normal in the shower, using soap and water on and under the cage.
• Use a cotton swab or blow-dryer to dry the hidden areas thoroughly.
• If you’re uncircumcised, it might help to pull the foreskin back occasionally for cleaning.
• If any redness or irritation appears, remove the device, clean it, and reapply (or give your skin a break).
  

Chafing or Pinching

• Inspect your cage before using.
  File down any sharp edges or burrs on metal parts.
• Applying a little barrier cream (like zinc ointment) can prevent chafing.
• Also, ensure your ring size is correct; a loose ring can spin and rub painfully.
  

Urination

• After putting it on, stand and try to urinate carefully; the stream should flow out easily. 
• If it’s blocked, adjust the cage and ring position until you can urinate comfortably.
  

No Erections

Chastity is designed to block erections, but sometimes you may still get semi-rigid bumps. Don’t panic, just try to relax and let it subside. Never force the device if it’s pressing uncomfortably. If you wake up with involuntary nighttime arousal, consider briefly removing the device only until you can calm it (then re-lock).